Since the twins came home from the hospital they have been sleeping together in a travel crib. Last week, Colt kept crying out at night. I’d pop up to check on them and both babies would be sound asleep with placid looks on their faces. I figured baby CoCo was having bad dreams UNTIL I happened to see Bonnie roll-over, whack him in the face, and roll back!
Bonnie has become increasingly mobile and often thrashes around while she is falling asleep (she has a signature move. The one where you are laying on your back and whip your legs under you to pop up to standing.) Poor Colt often receives a beating from his sister without being able to roll away or even put his hands up to shield his face!! So we bought a second-hand crib and while it’s bittersweet to have them apart, they seem to be sleeping much more peacefully.
Bonnie has developed a few tricks. If we say “KISS!” she’ll press a big, open guppie mouth against your face. (The smell of her face and mouth and kiss is so sweet and her little mouth so soft.)
Off and on since birth I have worried that Bonnie has a lip tie. Her latch, while correct, is SO DIFFERENT from Colt’s. It’s like she has a beak and chomps instead of sucking.
While he latch is stronger than Colt’s, it’s much less effective. She rarely drains the milk on her side, like Colt does easily.
In the early months, every time we nursed she would throw her head back and wail. She seemed to get frustrated after a 15 seconds. She has never been a long nurser. It was Bonnie’s norm.
But I’ve kept experimenting with her, and around 5 months or so I discovered some tricks to compensate for her latch/sucking and those occasional successes are LIKE GOLD! She never stops wiggling when she’s awake so it was shocking to see her after a full feed—she was completely relaxed despite being wide awake; she was laying on the bed, not stirring, with a contented grin on her face.
It doesn’t always work (and it’s a lot of extra work that comes at the cost of my other baby wailing for me the entire 30-40 minutes) but it’s an improvement!
I’ve asked at a couple of medical centers but they either didn’t know what it was or didn’t know how to help me. Breastfeeding is not very common in Korea. The older generation seems to think it is unhealthy and unsanitary. But there is a HUGE movement in Seoul to encourage breastfeeding and many more mamas are. Part of that movement includes government mandated “Baby Rooms” (also called “Suckle Rooms.”) I have been spoiled by the beautiful, comfortable “Baby Rooms” found in subway stations, parks, malls, etc. And because nursing isn’t common, I have the rooms all to myself!
As I’ve continued to research tongue-ties I discovered that clipping the tongue tie is (or was?) illegal in Korea. Parents believed it would help their children speak English more without an accent and so they would rush out to get their babies/preschoolers tongues clipped without any medical necessity.
Bonnie and Colt continue to be as different as the sun and the sea. Nursing is a social event for Colt and he likes my undivided attention. If one of the big kids comes into the room to ask a question, he will stop nursing, lay back and patiently wait for them to leave before resuming. Even if I pull out my cell phone, he will stop nursing and wait for me to finish before continuing.
He is a social man and will occasionally detach, tell and animated story and the moment the last syllable is out, he’ll go right back to nursing. It’s like he just needed to get that tidbit of information off his chest.
Well most of the Colt stories are about food. I was in church after sacrament and I was chatting in the overflow with Colt on my lap. He was grinning at the friend and mid-conversation decided he was hungry and dive-bombed my shirt with great accuracy.
When Colt is laying down and crying, all of his tears run into his ears, forming little pools.