30 Weeks

29 weeks

(More minutia than anyone but me…and maybe Linders 🙂 care to know.)

As of my last appointment, both babies are measuring 2 weeks ahead and each weighs three-and-a-half pounds.  Baby boy is a little longer and leaner than baby girl.  Baby girl is shorter than baby boy but with a larger tummy circumference. The ultrasound tech said she could see hair on both their heads.  Baby boy used to be the active one up until around 20 weeks, since then I rarely feel him move.  Of course, this worries me constantly (knot in cord? cholestasis? tear in amniotic sac? distress?  Please be okay my precious one.)  I’ve been told that he may be moving more than I can feel–perhaps he’s positioned more towards the back or he’s kicking his sister instead of me or that I’m misconstruing his movements as hers.  

Seeing the baby boy on ultrasound is very reassuring.  His heart-rate is 150 bpm and everything looks fine.  But he hardly moves.  In fact, to reassure me, the u/s tech pointed out the one time he wiggled his fingers.   Baby girl on the other hand never stops moving.  She infuriates ultrasound techs because even frozen stills of her are not clear enough for measurements.  Her heart-rate was 130 bpm.  Her movements bring me so much joy and reassurance.  I am so grateful to her for constantly reminding me she’s there and okay.  We play games where she sticks her foot out and I push it back and she’ll come back more vehemently or I can trace my skin in circles and she’ll follow with her feet.  Even when her movements wake me in the middle of the night, I cannot help but smile…and even tear up happily.  I am so grateful for all this.  

I’ve had some preterm labor and have been given medication for it.  At my last appointment (September 9th) my doctor congratulated me on their bigger size and said they’ll be much better off because of it if they end up being born prematurely. The doctor believes my body is at “max capacity”, and to give the twins a chance to develop longer he advised immediate bed rest.  I know it’s debatable whether bed rest really makes any difference.  For me, it’s been amazingly successful.  There has been no further progression of labor and my preterm labor symptoms have completely disappeared.  I’m extremely lucky.

In the past week, I’ve felt lessening of a lot of pregnancy symptoms.  Maybe it’s that my activity has greatly decreased or the babies dropped but I can breathe so much better!  My appetite unfortunately has disappeared.  I get the slight burning/stinging in the back of my throat (acid reflux)–just enough to remind me I’m in the third trimester but not enough to bother me.  I’m super lucky.

Other pregnancy idiosyncrasies:  my stomach is extremely heavy.  I never felt anything like this even at the very end of my pregnancy with 9 lb Kimchi. My stomach skin is so sore (like a fresh rug burn…but all over)–I try not to grimace if one of the kids unknowingly brushes against my stomach or asks to kiss the babies.  The worst is when I misjudge how far my stomach sticks out and catch it on the corner of the washer, a cupboard, the fridge, the doorway. Agony!!  However, I LOVE it when Tofu slathers my stomach with lotion.  It feels so heavenly.  Edema is back and it makes my hands, ankles and feet are unrecognizably swollen by the end of the day.  It’s not painful, just weird.  My feet feel like I’m walking on round padded bear feet and my hands burn and are too tightly puffed to bend my fingers.

D is a saint.  He gives me back rubs, foot rubs, and constantly prepares things for me to eat.  (He makes a mean pineapple-mango shake which is so cool and refreshing.)  He comes home from work, puts the kids to bed, cleans the house and does laundry.  Every week, he’s gone on some wild goose hunt all over Seoul to get things that he thinks might be delicious to me or make me more comfortable. He seems to be a bottomless reservoir of concern.

In our apartment we have A/C units in each room, but the building management controls the temperature of the air coming out.  It’s so hot in the building that the neighbors are rioting.  In response, the management put up signs in the building stating that “because it’s become cooler outdoors they’ve adjusted the a/c thermostats accordingly” (but really it’s because the owner is tight-pocketed.)  It is STIFLING in our apartment!  Even the kids, sleeping on top of the covers, in only their underwear, wake up drenched with sweat.  It is slightly cooler outdoors these days, but mosquitoes are a problem this year. If we have a window open for even a few minutes, our apartment is swarming and we get eaten alive!!!  These things have made sleeping the past few weeks incredibly hot and itchy.    Interesting note: I visited one of the premier hospitals in the area and it was about 95 degrees inside.  My English guide said it was because the government strictly regulates energy usage.


8 thoughts on “30 Weeks

  1. I love this post! None of this info was supefluous for me. I want and need these details from you. Although I cannot imagine how you are withstanding the heat. Have you used your stomach as leverage? I think making a personal visit to the manager may be an acceptable exception for bed rest. AND your neighbors might pay you for your help! 🙂

    • The problem is the manager hides! The front desk guys and security guards will listen to us and make appointments for us to see the manager, but then the manager will hide in his office until we leave! He acts like a child!

  2. Sounds like crazy adventures! I’m glad you are happy and not stressing too much. Those two little ones are so precious already! I remember one summer during my mission where we had zero hot water in our apartment. I like my warm showers in the morning. The water was so so cold that I couldn’t bear to take a shower (even though the air was miserably hot – I don’t know how the water stayed so cool). I appealed to my mission president but it was just a thing the city did to conserve energy. And we didn’t have A/C either. Those nights were so hot! But fans at night and dipping my feet in cold water during the day helped me survive!

    • Thanks Gens, that actually makes it feel much more doable. Lately (I’m totally employing a Mom/Lindy tactic) I’ll give Tofu wash cloths and cold water and she’ll “wash” my legs with them. She even asks to do it! It’s so cool and refreshing.

  3. I can’t imagine dealing with the heat while so pregnant! One of the most asked questions I had when I was 9 months pregnant in August was if I had a/c (we did!). I hope it cools off for you! I was on bed rest for ONE WEEK and it was awful because my hips ached from lying on my side. You are such an example to me in the way you don’t complain! 🙂 I hope you can keep those babies cooking for a while longer!

  4. I am so sorry that you’ve come across such a stingy manager! That is the pits. Sweaty pits! 😉 I am soooo happy to hear that your pregnancy is going well! We love hearing these updates! I am so excited to meet these babies! They are so lucky to have such amazing parents like you and D, and to have such great siblings who love them so much already! I love that they want to give them kisses already (I’m sorry that it hurts though when they do!) Pregnancy with twins sounds like a whole different ball game…. but again if anyone can do it, it’s you! And D! 🙂

  5. Love love love this post. It’s so great to hear about the pregnancy. It’s such a blessing, but man it sounds like quite the challenge too. No AC for someone as pregnant as you is just torture! And bedrest is so hard, especially when D has to work so much–I’m glad he’s so caring when he can be home! Love you guys.

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